One of the goals of Coaching: Life Matters through its program Coaching: Marriage Matters is to provide good information and encouragement to couples who are married or considering marriage, and who are seeking ways to better understand themselves and how to have a meaningful lifetime together. A series of 52 weekly messages for discussion has been developed to serve as a guide to help you in your effort of self-discovery and in your attempt to better communicate about important aspects of your relationship with your spouse. These messages cover a wide range of topics and incorporate reading, meditation, prayer, and discussion as a way to enhance your overall conversation.
There is a presupposition that underlies each of these weekly messages. Inspired truth exists about how human beings are to relate to one another, both inside and outside of marriage. This Core Truth, as revealed in biblical scripture, asserts that love is the driving force of life and the means by which we as human beings nurture one another. Nowhere is real love, where the welfare of others is equal to what we desire for ourselves, to be more evident than in the marriage relationship.
Sometimes this Core Truth becomes obscured by what you may have come to believe about yourself and life in general. We have all developed controlling Core Beliefs about how to stay safe, how to be valued, and how to stay in control. Sometimes these Core Beliefs come out of bad information or from trauma, resulting in distorted views about self-preservation and limitations in the ability to judge the needs of others. These distortions can create what will be termed a Core Wound to the personality.
Left alone, a Core Wound can support a Core Lie which is a misinterpretation of life circumstances. Such a Core Lie can damage the ability of any of us to actually sense and appropriately respond to the needs of those around us. Persistent thoughts that you are unworthy, under a threat, incapable, or undesirable (just to mention a few of the possibilities) can all result in troubled relationships because of an inaccurate self-image and a false interpretation of how to best relate to others.
It is hoped by working through the 52 weekly discussions that you and your spouse can sort out and understand more about how your life views and personal beliefs are impacting your ability to understand and value one another.