Discussions for Coaching: Marriage Matters

INTRODUCTION

One of the goals of Coaching: Life Matters through its program Coaching: Marriage Matters is to provide good information and encouragement to couples who are married or considering marriage, and who are seeking ways to better understand themselves and how to have a meaningful lifetime together.  A series of 52 weekly messages for discussion has been developed to serve as a guide to help you in your effort of self-discovery and in your attempt to better communicate about important aspects of your relationship with your spouse.  These messages cover a wide range of topics and incorporate reading, meditation, prayer, and discussion as a way to enhance your overall conversation.

There is a presupposition that underlies each of these weekly messages.  Inspired truth exists about how human beings are to relate to one another, both inside and outside of marriage.  This Core Truth, as revealed in biblical scripture, asserts that love is the driving force of life and the means by which we as human beings nurture one another.  Nowhere is real love, where the welfare of others is equal to what we desire for ourselves, to be more evident than in the marriage relationship.

Sometimes this Core Truth becomes obscured by what you may have come to believe about yourself and life in general.  We have all developed controlling Core Beliefs about how to stay safe, how to be valued, and how to stay in control.  Sometimes these Core Beliefs come out of bad information or from trauma, resulting in distorted views about self-preservation and limitations in the ability to judge the needs of others.  These distortions can create what will be termed a Core Wound to the personality.

Left alone, a Core Wound can support a Core Lie which is a misinterpretation of life circumstances.  Such a Core Lie can damage the ability of any of us to actually sense and appropriately respond to the needs of those around us.  Persistent thoughts that you are unworthy, under a threat, incapable, or undesirable (just to mention a few of the possibilities) can all result in troubled relationships because of an inaccurate self-image and a false interpretation of how to best relate to others.

It is hoped by working through the 52 weekly discussions that you and your spouse can sort out and understand more about how your life views and personal beliefs are impacting your ability to understand and value one another.

Downloads:

Week 1 Constructive Confrontation
Week 2 Whose Truth?
Week 3 Marriage As a Partnership
Week 4 Planning for the Marriage Journey
Week 5 Giving and Receiving in Marriage
Week 6 Marriage Is a Sacred Design
Week 7 Why Is Marriage Easier for Some Couples?
Week 8 What’s the Main Thing in Your Marriage?
Week 9 The Foundation for Marriage
Week 10 The Establishment Stage of Marriage
Week 11 Trust Is a Must
Week 12 A Laboratory for Grace
Week 13 The Mystery of a Christian Marriage
Week 14 Practicing Being Present
Week 15 It’s All About You
Week 16 Listening for Learning
Week 17 Happiness: It’s Up to You
Week 18 Biblical Teaching on Marriage (Part 1 of 2)
Week 19 Biblical Teaching on Marriage (Part 2 of 2)
Week 20 The Growth Stage of Marriage
Week 21 Children and Marriage (Part 1 of 3)
Week 22 Children and Marriage (Part 2 of 3)
Week 23 Children and Marriage (Part 3 of 3)
Week 24 Laughter: The Best Medicine
Week 25 Marriage As Teamwork
Week 26 Vulnerability in Marriage
Week 27 Wisdom from 350 Years of Marriage (Part 1 of 2)
Week 28 Wisdom from 350 Years of Marriage (Part 2 of 2)
Week 29 Marriage and Paul’s Letter to the Philippians
Week 30 The Transition Stage of Marriage
Week 31 Managing Your Emotions
Week 32 Making Things Worse
Week 33 Unfaithfulness in Marriage
Week 34 The Goal is Reconciliation
Week 35 What Sex in Marriage Is Not (Part 1 of 3)
Week 36 What Sex in Marriage Is Not (Part 2 of 3)
Week 37 What Sex in Marriage Is Not (Part 3 of 3)
Week 38 Finding the Value in Your Marriage
Week 39 The Presence of God in Marriage
Week 40 The Mature Stage of Marriage
Week 41 Managing Your Expectations
Week 42 Marriage and Faith Go Together
Week 43 What Is Biblical Submission? (Part 1 of 3)
Week 44 What Is Biblical Submission? (Part 2 of 3)
Week 45 What Is Biblical Submission? (Part 3 of 3)
Week 46 Marriage Is Not the Measure of Personal Worth
Week 47 Marriage Is More Than Just Talent
Week 48 The Discipline of Discernment
Week 49 Emotional Divorce
Week 50 Happiness and Marriage
Week 51 Action Must Follow Belief
Week 52 In Defense of Marriage